The one thing we have in common

“Here's what I think, Mr. Wind-Up Bird," said May Kasahara. "Everybody's born with some different thing at the core of their existence. And that thing, whatever it is, becomes like a heat source that runs each person from the inside. I have one too, of course. Like everybody else. But sometimes it gets out of hand. It swells or shrinks inside me, and it shakes me up. What I'd really like to do is find a way to communicate that feeling to another person. But I can't seem to do it. They just don't get it. Of course, the problem could be that I'm not explaining it very well, but I think it's because they're not listening very well. They pretend to be listening, but they're not, really. So I get worked up sometimes, and I do some crazy things.” 
Haruki Murakami quotes The wind-up bird chronicle 

I copy pasted this paragraph because I felt that there was something I did not agree with. I agree totally that we all having something different at the core of our existence but exactly for that reason we can not and must not demand that it be understood by others. It is something sacred that only we can try (and sometimes even we have problems) understanding. I have this battle within myself for quite a long time. How am I ever going to find someone (whether that be a friend, partner or whatever) who has the same views as me? I tried talking to people about spiritual issues I am interested in and other worldly conversations that stimulate and inspire me. Well guess what I realized? Every time i had these kind of conversations (which I always brought up) I ended up really upset because the person I was talking to would always try and grab me from the ankles and screw my legs to the ground with a hook and hammer. I would get upset because I felt that the world was lost in misery and that there was no romanticism left and no beauty seen. I have discovered that I don't have to ask that of other people. The inner questions, passions and inspirations do not necessarily have to be shared. People are beautiful and they are everywhere. I can not expect others to understand my inner struggles (struggles I mean in a perfect sense of a searching) and you know what? I dont want to share my thoughts any more. I dont feel the need to be understood because I have that special little thing inside me (my unique core of existence - which everyone has of course) that I am happy to keep to myself. I will never stop searching not because i want answers but because it keeps me alive and interested and in love with everything! How boring life would be if everything was perfect and understood. 

Conversations with people about their views and values are amazing. I don't want to match theirs or them match mine - I just want to hear what else is out there because I am interested. I actually think that studying people is one of the most interesting things one can do - and its free. I think this is a very healthy thing to do as long as you do it in a positive way. It is not judging, it is observing. This however can very easily become a judging process so one constantly needs to remind oneself that everyone is equal. There is no better 'type' of person but only a 'different type' of person. Human relationships are difficult for exactly this reason. We are all so different but that in itself is the beautiful thing about us! The most unattractive thing is when someone believes themselves to be 'better' than others. That is when you can judge slightly by saying that that person may just be a little ignorant. Ignorant not in the sense of book smart or knowledge based intelligence but a kind of worldly ignorance that is the result of a lack of wisdom. It is sad but they will spend their life finding out slowly that their false perception of greatness is wrong. These are the people who are jealous, angry and sad. These are the people who do not love others because they do not love themselves. These are the people that do not understand that the beauty in the tiniest things is what makes our world great! 

Its okay though because these are the people who have lived few lives and as they live more and more they will change and evolve into wiser, happier people. They will convert their negative thoughts into positive ones and will learn to live with themselves in perfect harmony. It doesn't get cornier than that! 

There is something so tiny that can prove that being positive and kind can give you those two great qualities back. Going into a supermarket and shopping. It is definitely not the most enjoyable thing to do and it is definitely not the most enjoyable job. Working at the cashier, swiping lettuce, cheese and chicken. Watching as people rush and scramble past each other in order to get along with their lives. It is not a secret that a few of these ladies or gentlemen working these jobs may be a little on the rude side or just not in the greatest of moods. Do not be rude back. Do not react with anger or frustration. Smile (and not in a sarcastic way - that will blow their caps off) - this will not only keep your emotional levels happy but might just make their day a little easier. Its a win win situation. Be positive, smile and be kind - is that not what you ask of others?